In Lieu of Flowers Does Not Mean Not to Send Flowers

Nothing makes a florist cringe more than reading those words in an obituary ~ In Lieu of Flowers.

The death of a family member or close friend is one of life's most painful episodes. Those in mourning need support and most of us are anxious to find some way to comfort them. One of the most appropriate and appreciated ways to express sympathy and compassion, as well as respect for the deceased, is by sending flowers.

Occasionally, the obituary announcement includes the phrase "In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to...". Often times, this terminology is used to encourage charitable gifts but not necessarily to discourage other expressions. Most families sincerely appreciate all personal expressions and may later regret having too few flowers at the funeral. It is important that each giver make their own choice and many people are choosing to send a floral remembrance to the service or family home as well as a donation to the charity indicated. While a monetary donation is a worthy tribute, there is really no substitute for beautiful flowers at a sympathy service. They comfort the living as they commemorate the lives of the deceased.

These Phrases are Suggested:

• The family suggests memorial contributions be sent to....
• Should friends desire, contributions may be sent to....
• Memorials may be made to the charity of your choice.
• The .... Memorial has been established for those wishing to contribute.
• As an expression of sympathy, memorial contributions may be sent to....
• The family has designated the .... for memorial contributions.
• Remembrances may be made in the form desired by friends.
• Memorial contributions may be made to....
• Flowers are welcome Contributions may be sent to....

* Thank you to http://www.inlieuofflowers.info/index.php for the above information. Flowers are still the best way to express your feelings and we hope the next time you need to do so, you'll contact your local florist to send a lovely floral bouquet.